Tag: relationships

The Ties that Blind

For David I Muir, photographer extraordinaire, who asked for a word on connection. — The word connection is derived from an Old Latin word meaning “link” or “tie.” In fact, con means “with” in Spanish, and nexus is a word that is related linguistically to it. Connection has, of course, another meaning. Internet! Yes! the…
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Let’s Be Frank (or Susan, it doesn’t matter to me)

You are the answer. Not just for yourself. Here on this blog, you’ll find a unique perspective on solving both small and big problems. You’ll also be challenged to look at things in a way that is empowering. You want to make a difference– and you can, but real impact begins with how you think–…
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The use of guilt

You’d be surprised at how useful guilt is. No, really. When you’re trying to get things done, thinking about the negative consequences can be a powerful motivator. Especially when those consequences will be felt by someone you care about. But what about the consequences you face? What Guilt Is Bitten apple (clipped to polyvore.com) Guilt…
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Fake it til you break it

Recently, I’ve taken on a lot of work that has me stretched between two levels of consciousness. There is the part of my life that I know pretty well and feel like I can control…and there’s the part that is completely foreign to me and in some cases, completely unknown. I hate it. Not the…
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My answer to boredom

At some point in your life, you’ll be want to be anywhere but where you are. Maybe it’s at work. You’re on the floor watching your customers, or looking at a computer screen, hoping that the system op isn’t tracking your clicks as you search for the Youtube your friends told you about. Maybe it’s…
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My Answer to Sadness: Part 2

Depression is when anger at your current situation becomes guilt and powerlessness. Even though I’ve proposed an innovative and effective approach to depression, there’s a very straightforward way to crack open deep levels of sadness. Tell your story so that you win. Think about the story of the man and his injured son (here). This…
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My Answer to War and Violence

Israel – Palestine. Ferguson. Ukraine – Russia. New York. Family home. Workplace. Your neighborhood. The violence perpetrated one to another isn’t as far away as we’d like to imagine. That means it’s not as easy to put ourselves at a safe distance. If you have any connection to social media at all, you’ll see that…
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Dead Weight

One of my colleagues was talking about the need to cut the dead weight (read “people”) out of her life. I’ve had to walk through that too as I mention here, and especially if the relationship was long-standing, you may feel anger, regret and disappointment. But here’s something about dead weight in particular. Dead weight…
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Give In To Your Fear

Me and my mom are really close. No one really knows you like your mother. She’s seen me grow and evolve. She’s seen me succeed and she’s seen me fall miserably. Our relationship has grown past mother-daughter into friendship. As least, that’s the lie I try to tell myself. I figured out what a faker…
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The Steadman Principle (while you #banbossy)

(with apologies to the Winfrey camp) Those who remember Janet Jackson’s hard-core days, when she dressed in all black and was part of the Rhythm Nation, may recall her song, “The Pleasure Principle”. She was on to something. We serial entrepreneurs and world-changers find ourselves in a quandary. We may still want the hot, masculine…
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